Motherhood to the power of Baby Loss
I mean this in the sense that - when raising our living children after loss we can lose sight of what is ‘normal’ and what is being ‘amplified’ by our post-loss fears and anxieties.
I am so grateful for the mothers in my life who walk beside me and give me the home truths of motherhood. Because to be honest… I don’t know what’s normal!!? They see what is happening, push my anxieties and alarm aside, then explain what would be happening anyway.
So it turns out ‘lots’ of the time when we are in the trenches of motherhood we are actually experiencing the anxiety and stresses that every mother goes through… on top of exhaustion, sleep deprivation and generally feeling like shit. It can seem impossible to even think about being able to fill your own cup with all that is to be done now!
Here’s the thing… for most loss mums, grief takes a swig out of your cup before you even get out of bed in the morning. We are starting with depleted reserves in the areas of physical, emotional and mental well-being … (unless you are amazing at keeping that cup filled - in which case PLEASE leave some tips in the comments below!!) So it can, in fact, just add to the overall overwhelm experienced by baby loss mummas as they navigate raising their living kids.
I have never had a living child to raise before baby loss, so the world and everything in it always seemed like a constant threat to my boys. But I am getting better…. I check in with reality, with my friends and with my mum.
Make sure you check in with others, make a Facebook group, put them in speed dial. Your people will help. Xx You are not a burden as much as it may feel like that. Most friends and family love knowing that they can finally help you in some small way.
If you would like a FREE worksheet to look at all the ways you can FILL YOUR CUP just head over and choose it in Free Resources - Print it out, fill it out and stick it on your fridge or somewhere handy to look at whenever you need to build your reserves (like …. Daily)
